On a night like this...

Sometimes it takes a night like this to remind yourself what would the world really be like without men?

And I am not talking on a sexual sense – I am referring more to the way women and men think. Men think black/ white – women think grey. And would we want it any other way?

After all grey is created from the careful combination of black and white. The decision to mix the two and see what comes of it.

But in this murky water women live in, sometimes over-analysis is over-kill and what we need is a definite reference point. Call a spade a spade. What is black is black. What is white is white. No what if’s. What could have been’s. What maybe’s…

Being around men is liberating and frustrating. And it is this dichotomy that a woman thrives on. Because we can do both. We can think in black/white, but also in grey. But men struggle to do both.

And really we shouldn’t be asking them to mix the palate.

One thing, despite all the tables being turned thanks to the feminist wave, is women still crave certainty. And men deliver the goods. Certainty is the ability to think in these solid areas of black and white – they will not budge.

And for women in the face of change, no matter how strong we are, we are even more uncertain than our mothers – because we have far more to choose from. Grabbing hold of a man’s instincts to see the world in black and white is something we should willingly embrace.

It gives us the anchor to explore the world in grey. And when we love them for that, they get to see a more complex picture that is truly beautiful and diverse in every way.