Mental note: work on being spontaneous
Random and hectic in London… but definitely not nearly as spontaneous as what it should be.
That was the conclusion I came up with when I had to book in a date to see one of my friends a month in advance. I thought this a little strange, but when I looked over the next two weeks in my diary I realised life was jam-packed with birthdays, leaving dos, work hob-knobbing, catch-up lunches… and well, where is the free time??
Is this the way it is when you grow up? Life becomes planned and impulses are pushed to the kerb to keep up engagements.
The only commitment I had in the student world was a last-minute cramming session because spontaneity ruled! Dropping in to see a mate for coffee inevitably spilled over to waking up on the couch with a smashing headache and the destruction of empty wine bottles and over-flowing ash trays. And it all seemed relatively fine and seemingly the norm.
Whereas now, a scenario like this is played out and you’re left playing catch-up. You’ve either decided on staying in (because it is criminal to subject the rest of society with your state) and reorganising your plans from the comfort of your couch. The guilt you feel kind of kills the impulses of the night before. Or you’re forced to ignore the best wishes of society and drag yourself through another social engagement. It’s only after you’ve had the second hair-of-the-dog does some of your guilt reside.
How have I got to this point – I have to plan to be spontaneous. It kind of defeats the purpose doesn’t it?
That was the conclusion I came up with when I had to book in a date to see one of my friends a month in advance. I thought this a little strange, but when I looked over the next two weeks in my diary I realised life was jam-packed with birthdays, leaving dos, work hob-knobbing, catch-up lunches… and well, where is the free time??
Is this the way it is when you grow up? Life becomes planned and impulses are pushed to the kerb to keep up engagements.
The only commitment I had in the student world was a last-minute cramming session because spontaneity ruled! Dropping in to see a mate for coffee inevitably spilled over to waking up on the couch with a smashing headache and the destruction of empty wine bottles and over-flowing ash trays. And it all seemed relatively fine and seemingly the norm.
Whereas now, a scenario like this is played out and you’re left playing catch-up. You’ve either decided on staying in (because it is criminal to subject the rest of society with your state) and reorganising your plans from the comfort of your couch. The guilt you feel kind of kills the impulses of the night before. Or you’re forced to ignore the best wishes of society and drag yourself through another social engagement. It’s only after you’ve had the second hair-of-the-dog does some of your guilt reside.
How have I got to this point – I have to plan to be spontaneous. It kind of defeats the purpose doesn’t it?
posted by Zap at
2:31 pm
1 Comments:
Solanas advocated the burning of Bras and amputation of the male member so as to pronounce with proud zealous gusto that men are no longer needed by a society suffering from their hindrance. How did this relate? oh yes, I suggest you adopt some of her revolutionary drive and burn your diary?
Life is indeed so much more enjoyable when you allow yourself to start off at the pub after work on a Thursday after work and end up in the same clothes on Friday night at the pub having been out all night, with a few handy hours kip at the house of a friend randomly after falling out of a club some time after four.
The sensible thing to do? strike a balance. Responses such as "Well I'll have to see how next week pans out, but yes we definitely will get a bottle of wine in one night", are better than "See you next wednesday between 6and10 then I have to head back for early morning Thursday". They fool you into feeling free, even though you've written a posit to yourself somewhere telling you to ring X the following week and make some time for them. This attitude lets you mold your time around how you feel as well as the essential bookings.
Try it - it's good for the soul.
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