Is the trophy cabinet empty?
I love waiting for the next ‘in flavour’ topic the media jump on. And recently the fashionable topic for winning column inches is the end of the trophy wife.
But I am not buying it.
The trophy wife is like killer stilettos to fashion. They’re here to stay no matter how impractical they can be on a night out – because they make you look good.
Yes, stiletto shoes and trophy wives can hurt but they also get results. Men still appreciate them. They might be high maintenance but sometimes they’re impossible to resist.
More recently a different variation of the trophy wife has come to the fore making it even more popular – it’s the WAG. She knows she has to look good and then the rest is easy streets. Hell, we’re even making reality TV programs around this new, more ambitious version.
I don’t dispute that there are more men seeking the less shallow option in striving for marital bliss. And that there are more women out there happy to fit the bill and let their brains lead rather than their booty – I am one of them.
But to suggest that the days of a woman being solely desired because of how she looks and what benefit it has for a man to have this aesthetic accessory are over is perhaps a tad unrealistic in the real world.
For a lot of young men being confronted with the spirit of a young woman and their independence is daunting. More than daunting in fact, it has led them to question their role in what they can bring to a relationship.
On more than one occasion, I have had a man ask what can they provide me if I seem to have it all. In a strange way it is like trying to figure out what to buy someone who has everything. What value can your present give them when they’ve gone out and got it all themselves?
But that’s when I go out and put a little heart into it. I buy them something that they’ve never even thought of and because it has come from me it has a special meaning.
If only all men could think along the same lines. That’s when I think the day of the trophy wife will be well and truly over.
So until then, some men will go for the easy option and choose a wife that looks good and can be cared for. She will adore him – even if it is just his wallet.
But to give credit where credit is due – the column inches are well worth it. If only for the fact that it highlights we are heading in the right direction.
But I am not buying it.
The trophy wife is like killer stilettos to fashion. They’re here to stay no matter how impractical they can be on a night out – because they make you look good.
Yes, stiletto shoes and trophy wives can hurt but they also get results. Men still appreciate them. They might be high maintenance but sometimes they’re impossible to resist.
More recently a different variation of the trophy wife has come to the fore making it even more popular – it’s the WAG. She knows she has to look good and then the rest is easy streets. Hell, we’re even making reality TV programs around this new, more ambitious version.
I don’t dispute that there are more men seeking the less shallow option in striving for marital bliss. And that there are more women out there happy to fit the bill and let their brains lead rather than their booty – I am one of them.
But to suggest that the days of a woman being solely desired because of how she looks and what benefit it has for a man to have this aesthetic accessory are over is perhaps a tad unrealistic in the real world.
For a lot of young men being confronted with the spirit of a young woman and their independence is daunting. More than daunting in fact, it has led them to question their role in what they can bring to a relationship.
On more than one occasion, I have had a man ask what can they provide me if I seem to have it all. In a strange way it is like trying to figure out what to buy someone who has everything. What value can your present give them when they’ve gone out and got it all themselves?
But that’s when I go out and put a little heart into it. I buy them something that they’ve never even thought of and because it has come from me it has a special meaning.
If only all men could think along the same lines. That’s when I think the day of the trophy wife will be well and truly over.
So until then, some men will go for the easy option and choose a wife that looks good and can be cared for. She will adore him – even if it is just his wallet.
But to give credit where credit is due – the column inches are well worth it. If only for the fact that it highlights we are heading in the right direction.
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