What you talking about?
I’ve decided that there are two types of conversationalist: those who do substance, and those who do not.
Need a little defining? My pleasure.
Those who do substance can deftly cover a girth of topics from politics to penises. They can delve into these subjects with revealing a little bit about themselves along the way. And, can penetrate into more intimate matters of the human psyche.
For those that do not do substance this all sounds rather deep – and surely a tad scary. That’s the misguided, amateur’s perspective on the art of substantial conversation. The virginal-like caution they exhibit when talk takes an interesting turn is both sweet and frustrating at the same time.
Those that flit, flirt and tease around the edges of substantial conversation do so as they’ve truly mastered the art of chitchat more comfortably than they should.
This is not to say that casual chitchat, frivolous banter, or chewing the fat should be frowned upon or seen as infinitely inferior. I acknowledge that without its existence we would be unable to enter so effortlessly into the substance.
But to rely solely upon it, really does sort out the meek from the brave. And hence limits your opportunities to forge bonds, establish your own sense of self and satiate your thirst for humans and the way the world works.
On a more crude, scale of social Darwinism, those who do substance increase their chances of an invite – be it as an unexpected guest at a dinner party, an impromptu work drink, or an extension of the conversation with the person you’ve found yourself fancying.
Putting all the analysis aside, it comes down to one thing: intimacy. And the consequence of this, is feeling closer to the people around you.
All the substantial conversations I’ve had with people has brought a little skip to my step for the courage it takes to share with them exactly who I am.
And that has all the makings of a life overflowing to the brim of relationships based on love, laughs and lots of last orders.
Need a little defining? My pleasure.
Those who do substance can deftly cover a girth of topics from politics to penises. They can delve into these subjects with revealing a little bit about themselves along the way. And, can penetrate into more intimate matters of the human psyche.
For those that do not do substance this all sounds rather deep – and surely a tad scary. That’s the misguided, amateur’s perspective on the art of substantial conversation. The virginal-like caution they exhibit when talk takes an interesting turn is both sweet and frustrating at the same time.
Those that flit, flirt and tease around the edges of substantial conversation do so as they’ve truly mastered the art of chitchat more comfortably than they should.
This is not to say that casual chitchat, frivolous banter, or chewing the fat should be frowned upon or seen as infinitely inferior. I acknowledge that without its existence we would be unable to enter so effortlessly into the substance.
But to rely solely upon it, really does sort out the meek from the brave. And hence limits your opportunities to forge bonds, establish your own sense of self and satiate your thirst for humans and the way the world works.
On a more crude, scale of social Darwinism, those who do substance increase their chances of an invite – be it as an unexpected guest at a dinner party, an impromptu work drink, or an extension of the conversation with the person you’ve found yourself fancying.
Putting all the analysis aside, it comes down to one thing: intimacy. And the consequence of this, is feeling closer to the people around you.
All the substantial conversations I’ve had with people has brought a little skip to my step for the courage it takes to share with them exactly who I am.
And that has all the makings of a life overflowing to the brim of relationships based on love, laughs and lots of last orders.
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8:32 pm
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